Doing is a State of Mind

Here's the cart for my workshop I just created entirely on my own, from design to production.  It may not look like much, but making it was a very big step on my path to becoming a doer.

Here’s the cart for my workshop I just created entirely on my own, from design to production. It may not look like much, but making it was a very big step on my path to becoming a doer.

We all see things that bother us many times a day, every day.

The interesting question is, what do we do about it?

First, I’ll tell you what I used to do.

Like most people, I often ignored the problem. When I decided to “do” something to solve the problem, I actually didn’t “do,” most of the time. Instead, I delegated it to someone else. By “delegate,” I mean that I either bought the solution (e.g. buy Halloween costumes for my kids), or I asked someone else to solve the problem (e.g. ask our handyman to fix the kitchen cabinet door).

Now, though, I’m on a personal mission to become more of a doer – to try to actively solve problems myself, rather than ignore or delegate.

My motivation at first was to set an example for my kids. After all, I want my kids to be consummate doers. I want them to change the world for the better. I want them to have a “can-do” attitude borne out of a combination of chutzpah and competence.

However, as I continue this transformation, I realize the wonderful benefits of doing to me in my everyday life – not just for world-changing innovation.
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Want Your Kids to Be Doers? That’s Your Job, Not Your School’s

I’m standing in front of the table I made a month ago in a woodworking class at Palo Alto High School. I made the table for my kids to do woodworking in our garage workshop.

Kids’ lives are increasingly structured to discourage independent problem solving of real world problems – i.e. “doing.” The two biggest trends in children’s use of their are the alarming increase in screen time, and the increase in time they spend on adult-administered activities – school, homework, and afterschool activities.

So, how do we combat this trend? I’m amazed to find that many people think schools are the answer. For instance, this recent article highlights schools’ efforts to make kids into “makers” – people who make physical things. (“Doers” is a broader term than “makers,” since it includes all sorts of doing to solve problems, including making, software hacking, social activism, and entrepreneurship.)

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The Doer Manifesto: A Resolution for 2013 and Beyond

My son Nico (5) is sanding a piece of wood for a woodworking project. He’s doing it because a teacher told him to do it. Soon, I hope he’ll work on projects of his own in our new garage workshop.

I want to make my kids into doers.

I will help them connect their passion for play with a passion for making the world a better place.

I will show them how to devote every day of their lives to solving problems, rather than leaning back in front of the TV.

I will show them that they can change anything that bothers them, for the better.

I will inspire them to pursue their own interests, rather than wait for a teacher to tell them what to learn.

I want them to be driven to make the world a better place.

And to have fun on the journey.

Every day.

I can make this happen. I will make this happen.

I’m the parent. The buck stops with me.

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Addressing Attention Issues Without Drugs

In many previous articles on this blog, I’ve characterized my oldest son Marco (8) as a great player, and I’ve praised his independence. However, just like any kid, he’s not all-great – he’s a complex mix of great and not-so-great.

So, in this article, I’ll talk about the not-so-great: Marco has an attention problem. Every day, my wife and I struggle mightily to get him to do the simplest things – put on his socks, eat his food at mealtime, hang his coat up, get ready for bed, etc. At school, despite the fact that he scores very well on standardized tests, when he and his fellow students are given time to complete multiple tasks, Marco will get less done than most kids.

Instead of getting these things done, he spends tens of minutes staring into space, smacking something on his hand, twirling a pair of scissors around on his finger, horsing around with kids around him, etc. In other words, he doesn’t pursue some alternative objective, and doesn’t develop some new skill.

He just wastes gobs of time. That kills me.

I know that acronym that’s probably running through your head right now. It starts with A-D, right?

Well, actually, I think he’s pretty N-O-R-M-A-L. I don’t mean that the majority of kids have attention issues like his, but I do mean that most kids who do end up becoming very competent adults.
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Our Favorite Toy Store is EBay

Here's Marco with one of his latest Lincoln Logs creations, made of parts from the 60s, 90s, and 00s.

[Note: I first published this story almost two years ago. Since then, I can add Pokemon cards to the long list of pre-owned items we buy on EBay.]

When I take my oldest two boys (5-1/2 and 2-1/2) to a toy store, most items there don’t attract them the way they do other kids. That’s because my boys have yet to consume any electronic media – television, movies, or video games. So, they are totally unfamiliar with all characters of toys that are derived from these media (e.g. Lion King and Sponge Bob), and they’ve never seen an advertisement for a toy.

Of course, this means that my wife and I have much more influence on what toys my kids become aware of, and what they ultimately get. But that power is not absolute. My boys definitely have wills of their own, and my oldest, Marco, has exhibited a strong tendency to get very deep into certain building toys and ask for particular components.

In essence, Marco is demanding something that eBay delivers much better than conventional retail toy stores: a very deep selection of components of certain kinds of toys. When Marco gets interested in a toy, he goes deep. Over the past two years, it’s been Hot Wheels and Lego and Lincoln Logs. All this brings us to eBay time and again. Continue reading

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Never Bored at Home

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Really. I’m serious.

Despite the fact that they play a lot less in our wonderful front and back yards in these cold and dark months, my boys (8, 5 and 3) have been playing like mad at home.

In fact, when we’re out, they often plead loudly to go home. When they get here, they spring into action, climbing, building, hiding, riding their plasma cars, playing board games, and playing cards. They make up imaginary worlds and play games with rules they improvise.

Why are they so stimulated at home? Some of the credit goes to factors that my wife and I have intentionally chosen to create a stimulating home environment, but other factors are a result of plain luck: Continue reading

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Television as a Learning Tool

My kids love this – it’s one of the funnest tunnel systems you’ll ever see, and it’s critical to an understanding of World War II. It’s the Maginot Line, on France’s border with Germany, and we’ll be watching a History Channel documentary video on it next week.

These days, it’s difficult to find an expert who thinks television is good for children.

And yet, it’s pretty obvious, even to the biggest TV critics among us, that television can provide information in a far more memorable way than any other medium.

The problem of television for children does not lie in the technology itself. Instead, it lies in both how television is used by children, as well as the specific TV content that they view.

I’ve found a way to make television very educational for my children, and to virtually eliminate the downside that comes from spending many hours a day passively watching. In other words, television in our house is a huge learning asset, not a necessary evil.

Here’s how I do this:
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Learning at Home With Deep Dives

Marco’s in geode heaven at Jeff Smith’s basement outside Pittsburgh.

Two years ago, Marco’s (8) passion was geodes – hollow rocks with crystals inside. Sometimes, it still is, but last year, he also got into the solar system and gardening.

These days, Nico (5) has joined in our deep dives, and it’s World War II, with a little tangent on prison escapes (POW camps and Alcatraz). It looks they’re getting pretty deep into woodworking in the near future, too.

If you just scan these topics – geodes, the solar system, gardening, World War II, prison escapes, and woodworking – you might conclude that my boys are hopping around, skimming the surface of many topics.

Actually, that’s exactly wrong. I take my boys very deeply into their passions – I call these journey’s “deep dives.” Every time we go on a deep dive, I’m fully prepared to go deeper indefinitely, without stopping. I have no plans for a next topic. I’m encouraging my boys to be totally undiversified learners, guided by their passions, not by any sort of checklist.
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How a Kid Masters His Neighborhood

8 years old: One recent afternoon, Marco left school with Wayne, stopped by Jacob’s house, then took them all to our house to play.

Today, my son Marco (8) took Wayne, a school friend, to the house of Jacob, another school friend. Then, the three of them made their way to our house. They made this entire journey, 1-1/2 miles, without any adults involved, either in transporting or in planning, and Marco was the leader. And, they did it in the rain, with no raincoats.

Marco can do all this on his own, too. In fact, he usually rides his bike home alone.

This degree of independent mobility is quite remarkable for an eight-year-old in the 21st Century. How did he get to this point?
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Doers Don’t Get Their Inspiration at School

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“I’ve never let school interfere with my education.” – Mark Twain

These doer kids who I’m studying (see my first article on them, Doers Don’t Watch TV) are incredibly action-oriented. They’re articulate. They ooze potential, yet they seem very self-assured and happy. In short, I can’t imagine a group of older kids that I’d rather my young kids emulate.

They’re some the world’s best makers, software hackers, entrepreneurs, and social innovators. I’ve been interviewing parents of doer kids from two groups:

  • Thiel Fellows – kids under 20 who entrepreneur Peter Thiel’s foundation has chosen to get $100K over two years to pursue their innovative ideas full time rather than go to college
  • Young Makers from the maker movement, in which kids and adults build fun physical things like robots and clothes with LED lights

Also, I’ve carefully read the stories of the amazing kids profiled in Tony Wagner’s great book, Creating Innovators.

So, these kids must all be superstar students at their schools, right?

Actually, they’re not. Most of the kids in these groups get little, if any inspiration from school. For the most part, they do attend school, but they don’t enjoy it, and many aren’t even particularly good at it.
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