http://playborhood.com/ en mike@playborhood.com Copyright 2010 2010-03-03T21:17:00-08:00 http://playborhood.com/site/article/my_goal/ http://playborhood.com/site/article/my_goal/#When:22:17:00Z I want my kids to play outside with other neighborhood kids every day.  I want them to create their own games and rules.  I want them to play big, complex games with large groups of kids, and simpler games one-on-one with a best friend.  I want them to decide for themselves what to play, where, and with whom.  I want them to settle their own disputes with their friends.  I want them to create their own private clubs with secret rules.  I want them to make lasting physical artifacts that show the world that this is their place.  I want them to laugh and run and think.  Every … Solutions 2010-03-03T22:17:00-08:00 http://playborhood.com/site/article/self_reliance_as_a_core_value_of_parenting/ http://playborhood.com/site/article/self_reliance_as_a_core_value_of_parenting/#When:20:01:00Z Whatever happened to “self-reliance?” It seems that parents don’t value this quality in their children anymore.  When I was a kid, parents bragged about their kids’ ability to do things on their own, and they were embarrassed if their kids seemed helpless. My parents made my sister and me walk with friends to and from school - over a mile each way - starting in first grade.  My dad had us work at his pharmacy from the age of 9 or 10, not because we were poor, but because he saw work and saving money as fundamental virtues.  In addition, we always did our own homework by ourselves.  I … The Problem 2010-02-25T20:01:00-08:00 http://playborhood.com/site/article/a_trampoline/ http://playborhood.com/site/article/a_trampoline/#When:09:08:01Z We just installed a trampoline at our house, and it’s been a great success.  Every day, at least one group of neighborhood kids visits to play with my kids on it.  One day, we had four different groups come to play on it, and it’s the middle of the winter!  I think the trampoline has finally enabled us to reach a goal I’ve been aiming at for the last year:  to make my yard into a neighborhood hangout for kids.  In short, a trampoline is the best kid-magnet feature you can install in your yard.  I should know - besides a trampoline, I’ve installed a huge playhouse, a swing set, a huge … Bright Spots, Solutions 2010-02-13T09:08:01-08:00 http://playborhood.com/site/article/totalitarianism_makes_a_comeback_in_politics_and_parenting/ http://playborhood.com/site/article/totalitarianism_makes_a_comeback_in_politics_and_parenting/#When:00:36:01Z In 1987, US President Ronald Reagan stood in front of the Brandenburg Gate of the Berlin Wall and said, “Mr. Gorbachev, tear down this wall!” Two years later, indeed, the wall was torn down, and the era of totalitarian communism ended with it.  For those of us old enough to remember this historic event, it was a dramatic repudiation of the idea that human behavior should be tightly controlled.  Today, though, it’s easy to find widespread acceptance of governmental repression.  In its prosecution of the War on Terror, the George W. Bush administration inflicted torture on “enemy … The Problem 2010-02-09T00:36:01-08:00 http://playborhood.com/site/article/connections_between_generations/ http://playborhood.com/site/article/connections_between_generations/#When:21:40:00Z Reading the New York Times obituary of J. D. Salinger yesterday brought me right back to my profound feelings of adolescent alienation and angst.  No work of art touched me more deeply in those years than his classic novel, The Catcher in the Rye. What’s intriguing now, looking back at my deep connection with Salinger’s timeless protagonist, Holden Caulfield, is how a semi-autobiographical story from the 1930s, published in the early 1950s in a dominant medium of that age (i.e. a paperback novel), could touch an adolescent of the 1970s so deeply.  Will our little kids, adolescents of … Nostalgia, The Problem 2010-01-29T21:40:00-08:00 http://playborhood.com/site/article/the_limits_of_electronic_media_consumption/ http://playborhood.com/site/article/the_limits_of_electronic_media_consumption/#When:02:04:00Z Back in 2004, Kaiser Family Foundation researchers found that children between 8 and 18 consumed electronic media* for pleasure (i.e. outside of school and schoolwork) 6 hours a day, on average. They thought that children must have reached their limit. They were wrong, as it turns out.  The 2009 survey found that children spend 7 hours a day consuming electronic media.  What’s more, they’re consuming almost 11 hours per day of total electronic media, but since they’re multitasking so often, they cram this into 7 hours of time.  The researchers didn’t even include 1-1/2 hours of cell … The Problem 2010-01-22T02:04:00-08:00 http://playborhood.com/site/article/free_range_is_not_a_viable_parenting_style_we_need_one/ http://playborhood.com/site/article/free_range_is_not_a_viable_parenting_style_we_need_one/#When:01:35:00Z Dr. Phil recently ran a program entitled “New Parenting Styles.” The show sets up a dichotomy between the current dominant “overparenting” approach and “free-range parenting.” Yikes - do folks out there really think that Free-Range is a parenting style?  Now, don’t get me wrong.  I’m in huge agreement with the Free-Range movement.  Parents have wayyy too much control over their children these days.  Lack of autonomy is the root of my critique of childhood in America today. I thoroughly applaud the Free-Range Kids movement, but it’s important to understand what it is and what it … Solutions, The Problem 2010-01-14T01:35:00-08:00 http://playborhood.com/site/article/chores_and_work_and_play/ http://playborhood.com/site/article/chores_and_work_and_play/#When:19:54:00Z Children hardly do household chores anymore.  They hardly work at part-time jobs, either. Instead, increasingly, their schoolwork is their “work.” Interested only in what matters to college admissions departments, parents would rather their children do homework or participate in extracurricular activities than do chores or work part-time. The cost of this choice is high for today’s youth in many ways.  When they finally do enter the work force as young adults, they do so with little or no experience doing “unskilled” work.  Most parents like to think of their children as high-level … The Problem 2010-01-06T19:54:00-08:00 http://playborhood.com/site/article/parents_spend_more_time_with_their_kids_today_the_good_news_and_bad_news/ http://playborhood.com/site/article/parents_spend_more_time_with_their_kids_today_the_good_news_and_bad_news/#When:02:04:00Z Studies show that parents, both mothers and fathers, are spending more time with their children than they did back in the 1960s, 70s, and 80s, when we parents were children.  They also show a big shift in how parents spend time with children.  (A comprehensive review of all this research can be found in ”The Rug Rat Race” by Gary Ramey and Valerie Ramey.) There’s good news and bad news in these numbers.  Solutions, The Problem 2009-12-17T02:04:00-08:00 http://playborhood.com/site/article/psychological_bullying_in_our_neighborhood/ http://playborhood.com/site/article/psychological_bullying_in_our_neighborhood/#When:22:56:00Z My 5-year-old son Marco was psychologically bullied by two older boys in our neighborhood yesterday.  It was the latest and most serious in a series of episodes like this.  However, in this situation, we found another very strong reason to advocate neighborhood play for our kids.  Neighborhood, Solutions 2009-12-07T22:56:00-08:00